The world is in a state of flux. But you’re doing the same thing this week as you did last week and nothing seems to change. People are taking to the barricades over Brexit and climate change and you’re snacking on popcorn checking for Instagram updates.
You’re in a rut. You had a plan for New Year, New You 2017 but it never worked. You relaunched about springtime and that never worked. You thought you’d wait for summer to be over but, likelihood is, nothing’s going to change. You’re in a rut.
Drastic action is required. Try one of these five things – and for everything you do that isn’t what you’d normally do take a pat on the back because kicking the rut habit is h-a-r-d.
1. Do something helpful
It can start by approaching someone who looks lost, or picking up a dropped can of beans in the supermarket. Baby steps. And if you’re not the kind of person who strikes out on their own, look for your Corporate Social Responsibility team at work – they’ll have programmes in which you can paint the walls of an old people’s home, or read to children or dig an allotment.
From that, you can make contacts in the charity sector and pick your own contribution. Helping others is one of the surefire ways of aiding your own well-being with benefits for mood and general health. Saturday in front of the telly? Or running a stall raising money that will actually make a difference to real people’s lives? The NCVO has a string of volunteer centres that can help you choose what to do.
2. Do something creative
When was the last time you had that amazing sense of satisfaction of sitting back after a project and seeing the thing you’ve just made – touching it, displaying it, leaving it and coming back to it.
Whether it’s a meal made from scratch, a lamp stand made from old bits of wood or a pencil sketch of the scene from your window, it doesn’t matter about the quality (not yet anyway) it only matters that something exists in this world because you made it happen.
3. Do something uncomfortable
All your life you wanted to get your set-up just-so. Everything like you like it. And now you’re there, you find you’re not growing. The best stories you tell are those when everything went wrong but you prospered – or you failed disastrously but laugh about it now.
Evolution is about struggle, about adapting and thriving and learning. It’s built into our DNA. Without that drive we’d all be single cell organisms. Do something that will prompt you to grow – or give you a story to tell. Talk to strangers at parties. Learn to speak French. Join a writer’s group and read out your short stories. You squirm, you succeed, you grow.
4. Do something daring
Something daring is “Do something uncomfortable” only taken to the max. We’re talking new skills and experiences that put you on the edge and give you the thrill and adrenaline of being alive. Sky diving, skateboarding, joining a dating site. Take a skiing holiday, not a spa holiday.
Buy a F1 driving experience, not a new sofa. Live a little. Take pictures. Be like those other guys on Facebook who just don’t care what other people think. Liberate yourself from your fears with a bang, not a whimper. Ask yourself – what would I do if I wasn’t scared.
5. Do something
The only one that counts. Ultimately it doesn’t matter what you do – or, at least how you start out – the key thing is the will to try. Are you bored with your life, not because it’s boring but because it’s unchallenging? Do something – anything – you wouldn’t normally do, even if it’s only cycling with a group rather than cycling alone. Once you get a sense of what’s out there, the hairs will rise on the back of your neck and you’ll feel the potential of what’s possible.
The key moment is the first step. And remember, no-one’s keeping score. You’re not being ranked against Bear Grylls or JK Rowling. If trying a new breakfast cereal is daring in your world and you do it – congratulations! On to the next step…